Monday, May 23, 2011

Fear of Coming Out

I am overwhelmed at times by fear... I have not changed, but I feel that everybody's perception of me could change. I am not going to tell anybody at work... in a way, what is the use of advertising my sexuality, if I am not in search of a partner? I'm definitely not telling my best friend at work. She would think I want to jump her (ick!) and would undoubtedly describe me to her other friends as "her bisexual friend."

I can see women coworkers complaining about me using the ladies' room with them (it happened with a transgender woman... she was living as a woman but had not yet completed surgery, and somebody complained about her using the women's restroom. She already had boobs... was she supposed to use the men's room???)

At other times I wonder why I should say anything to anybody... but more and more I identify with causes and want to freely speak my mind and proudly wear my pride.

Another thing that troubles me is coming out to my sons. They're 10 and 12 and have no clue. I have raised them to be tolerant and open minded, but how do you bring this up? The 10 yo said today that a kid at school said he was gay. My son said it freaked him out a bit. I think we need to talk a bit more about it... and maybe that will be an opportunity...

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